We all have or had an idea in our head about what marriage is or will be like.
But just like a lot of other things, what we often imagine is a lot different compared to reality.
Most people imagine marriage to be smooth sailing, no arguments, just happily ever after.
But sadly, this isn’t a fairy tale or a Hollywood movie.
They’ll be arguments, hardship, and rough patches. But if you’re with the right person then those rough periods in your life won’t feel so bad.
Instead of doing the same mundane things you once did all by yourself every day, you have a partner doing their own same mundane things with you.
Whenever I think about marriage, I think about the reality of it. The highs, the lows, and the goofy fun side.
It’s the side of marriage most people neglect to think about, but it’s one of the most important parts of a marriage.
If anything, it’s the part of it that makes it worthwhile.
It makes the constant bickering, roasting each other, and those low points seem much better, and it helps put everything into perspective.
I’m not suggesting marriage is all hardship and strife. If you’re with the right person for you then it will feel like a dream.
Marriage takes a lot of work but when two people are perfect for each other, it doesn’t feel like hard work.
Making a marriage works takes two. Like the old saying goes, ‘it takes two to tango’.
Marriages fail for a lot of reasons. It could fail because of cheating, money problems, peer pressure, or just because the couple realizes that their other half is no longer apart of their big vision in life.
Sometimes marriages don’t work out because a couple falls out of love with one another, or simply because one person is putting in all the effort, while one is repping all the benefits from it.
If someone is doing that in a relationship, then it’s a sign that there’s something seriously wrong there, and the relationship/ marriage either needs fixing or ending.
It’s like making a beautiful and yummy dinner for your partner, only to find they’ve eaten your share too and don’t help clean up afterward.
Can you imagine if your partner did that to you? If Walt did that to me I would go ballistic and consider coating his delicious and lovingly prepared fried chicken with rat poison.
Obviously, ladies, don’t poison your partners if they do this. It may seem like a good idea at the time but the police will disagree.
A better way to think of it is like this. Your marriage is a field of flowers. Beautiful and well maintained.
But when the effort behind its maintenance is decreased, the flowers start to become damaged or they start to die.
Ingratitude becomes salt in this situation, stopping anything else beautiful from growing in this field and slowly killing everything else.
And unfortunately, while ingratitude doesn’t end marriages as quickly as cheating, it’s a big factor when calling it quits.
But the sad thing is, ingratitude isn’t necessarily a deliberate thing.
As time goes by some couples forget to appreciate the little things in life and in their relationships.
The reason why it worked in the first place is often forgotten and neglected.
People in long-term relationships and marriages often forget that being grateful every day helps couples in love stay happily married and together.
When you take time to notice and appreciate the things your partner does in your relationship, the love you two have carried on blossoming and transforms into something beautiful.
But there’s a big stereotype that men are often the ones who forget to notice all the little things their wives do in the relationship. However, this isn’t always the case.
Sometimes it’s the wife who neglects all the little things their husbands do for them, which is very sad.
Ladies, it’s important that you notice and appreciate the things your husband does for you. It helps you see what really matters, rather than focusing on his flaws (which everyone has).
Your spouse is one of the most important people in your life, so make sure you take time to notice it and praise him for all these things he does for you throughout your life and marriage.
If your partner does these 15 things, then he’s definitely a keeper.
1. He trusts you
He doesn’t doubt your actions, and he doesn’t stop you from seeking a life outside your home. This includes girls nights out, going on a holiday without him, or even encouraging you to go on a business trip with work!