If you’re due to become a parent any time soon, there is so much information out there to help you along these days!
Think about it, when our parents were having us and the folks of our generation, there was no such thing as the internet! If they needed to know something about parenting, they would have to look it up in a book, ask somebody else who might know… or just make it up for themselves!
And who could cope with that these days!
But one of the downsides of the internet when it comes to parenting must be the celebrity culture that goes with it. We are bombarded day after day with perfect looking bodies on the internet and in magazines, in Photoshopped images and airbrushed celebrity photoshoots.
So-and-so has lost all her baby weight! Such and such is looking trim 0.3 seconds after giving birth! Yeah well s0-and-so and such-and-such probably pay nannies a trillion dollars a day to bring up their kids and get that baby weight liposuctioned out of them!
For most women, the early stages of motherhood are not glamorous at all: they are full of tears and poop and big changes. And one mom aims to remind us of all that.
A woman’s body goes through several significant changes throughout her pregnancy, so it’s expected that her body also changes, crucially even after the baby is born.
What some people aren’t prepared for in this celebrity obsessed world where everything seems perfect is exactly how long these changes stick around for. But that’s why new mother Julie Bhosale aims to use social media to make women feel better about their postpartum bumps by documenting what happens to her own, which has already inspired many.
Dr Julie Bhosale is a mother of two from New Zealand, and is also a writer at ‘The Mum’s Nutritionist’.
She knows better than anyone, through her work and from first hand experience, that it’s common for mothers to feel bad about how their bodies look after the birth of children. Many don’t even realize that as they leave the hospital, they might even still be looking as though they’re carrying a baby.
But now she has gotten involved in the body positivity movement, and has become one of the many people opening up on social media about the true experience of new motherhood.
Julie is one of those active social media users doing their bit to support women through their changes, helping them accept their bodies, by sharing regular photos of herself and how she looks. That’s why she has been taking photos for fourteen weeks after she gave birth to her son.
Much like going through pregnancy, Julie says that recovering from giving birth is just as hard. She is trying her best to encourage women not to focus on how they look, but how they’re feeling. Posting photos of what she sees in the mirror are really effective at doing exactly that.
As she says herself:
You live in a society that pushes images at you every day of women who have given birth and just ‘bounced back’ – great for them (truly, that is great, Kate Middleton you are amazing!). But this is such a small minority. For most of us, our bodies change, and change a lot. It is scary, it is hard, it can be down right disgusting and upsetting but it is real and normal.
We couldn’t agree more, and hopefully you will be thinking along the same lines after looking through her incredible timeline!
One Day Postpartum
The photo on the left is Julie while she was thirty-seven weeks pregnant, while the photo on the right is her twenty-four hours after giving birth.
Anyone who thought that they would have miracle abs in the hours and days – or, as we’re about to see, weeks – after pushing out a baby is sadly wrong. It seems as if the bump is still just as big!
Two Days Postpartum
Things don’t get a lot easier quickly! While the most stressful part may be over, you can’t quite slip into those skinny jeans just yet. The bump is still sticking around! There are also the bare facts about the aftermath of birth, as Julie says:
Everything leaks. I mean EVERYTHING. I am a mess of body fluid. I am wearing not one but two enormous maternity pads, inside granny panties to try and contain the postpartum bleeding. Golf ball sized blood clots keep coming out. I have to keep these to be inspected and make sure it is not part of the placenta. Where has my dignity gone?
Julie also had this to say on the subject of breastfeeding:
“What’s more these puppies are ON FIRE and I still don’t know how to bloody use them. Show me that breastfeeding video one last time and I will tear the television from the wall socket – it is not helping!”
So getting your baby to feed properly is a trial that many, if not most women go through in the earliest stages of motherhood.
One Week Postpartum
Real life is nowhere near as glamorous as the movies and you won’t be out pushing a pram anytime soon. Julie explains:
Still rocking my pjs. Still got a lumpy, squishy watermelon belly. Still got the granny style undies and thunder pads.
Nice to see she’s still smiling about it all too!
Two Weeks Postpartum
The Pyjamas have gone! While you still may be getting some wear out of those maternity clothes, the bump has indeed shrunk and things are looking good!
Ten Weeks Postpartum
While you’re now two whole months out from giving birth, your body is still going through a lot of stress (not to mention the lack of sleep). Your stomach is still returning to its usual state however!
Sheesh, never mind how much her stomach is returning to normal, just look how that baby has grown!
In a little over two months, that baby boy has gone from a little pink blob to a real tiny human!
Fourteen Weeks Postpartum
Nothing an oversized tee can’t fix! While it may still be squishy and have a few stretch marks here and there, your stomach is definitely much smaller and you can stop worrying about those maternity clothes you’re sick of!
And what does she have to say about her body after the newborn phase is now over?
I am left with the marks of motherhood. A tummy that appears ‘flat’ but has the stretch marks, the skin, the sunken scar and abs which have not yet healed.
The point that Bhosale is trying to get across, is that having a few reminders of giving birth on your body isn’t the worst thing in the world and you can actually be proud of them. They show how much you went through!
You may not look like the next Victoria’s Secret Underwear model, but focus on how you feel.
I guess that’s good advice for anybody, whether they are a brand new mother or their kids are all grown up!
Julie reminds us that you shouldn’t be comparing your body to somebody else’s, even hers. Everyone is unique and nothing can take away from the little bundle of happiness in your arms.
You are beautiful, you are amazing, you are a mother.
We really couldn’t agree more with what Julie has to say on the matter, it might not be glamorous, but it’s real life! That’s what counts!
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