Relationships can be hard work. I’m not going to lie about that. However, when you’re with the right person, it’s different – the compromises and sacrifices come naturally and you’re be happy to do them because well, you LOVE each other!
Relationships require teamwork, and a lot of give and take.
However, there’s some very common dating myths out there that we just accept to be true simply because we hear them so regularly. In reality however, they’re a load of cr*p!
These days there are still a lot of old-school relationships that reek havoc on modern relationships and tear happy couples apart.
Take a look at some of these outdated relationship myths…
1. The Romance Will Fade After Time
It’s commonly thought that romantic gestures like kissing and cuddling will decrease with time.
There are a lot of people who tell you that romantic gestures decrease over time, but that’s not always the case, and it’s not always a bad thing.
But it’s important to try to remind your partner that they’re loved and wanted whenever you can. Otherwise, they’ll feel forgotten about or under-appreciated.
No one wants that.
2. Opposites Attract
The idea that people with opposite personalities are attracted to one another is a bit outdated.
While there are some exceptions to this, there are still a number of couples who got together because they had shared interests, and stayed together, because they did things together.
I’m not saying that a book lover can’t get together with a basketball player, but there needs to be some shared interest and common ground for the relationship to work effectively.
3. Good Relationships Have No Secrets
I’m going to let you in on a little secret… Secrets aren’t a bad thing!
Obviously, there are different types of secrets, and having those in a relationship isn’t necessarily a good sign, but not telling your partner about the time you stole a football from the kid next door isn’t going to ruin your relationship!
Your partner doesn’t need to know every single little detail about you, and you should only share secrets you’re comfortable with sharing.
Of course, if you’re secret is that you’re having a 15-year long affair with your boss, then maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship with your partner?
Having good kinds of secrets in your relationship is perfectly fine and healthy.
4. Don’t Go To Bed Angry
I agree that you should never go to bed with unresolved issues because something could suddenly happen.
But, it’s ok to still feel angry about whatever you were arguing about. Sometimes we just need some time to think things through.
If you do end up getting into an argument with your partner before going to bed, you should judge the intensity of the argument and your partner’s anger. Then you need to decide whether to discuss it then and there or if it can wait until the morning when your both thinking clearly.
5. Physical Attraction Is The Start Of Any Relationship
While it’s true that our eyes speak before our tongue, it’s important to remember that a good conversation lasts much longer than a selfie.
While we may be physically attracted to someone, it’s only mental connections that are long-lasting.
6. No Fights
The idea that only bad relationships have conflicts is stupid.
People have different thoughts and opinions. Unless you’re marrying a clone of yourself, you’re going to have some differences in opinions with your partner and even some arguments.
But that’s not a bad thing at all!
Conflict resolutions are a good sign of a healthy relationship after all!
7. Good Relationships Always Make You Happy
While it’s true that being in a good relationship will make you happier than being in a bad one, but it doesn’t put you in a constant happy mood.
Even the happiest of couples go through mood changes, and it is perfectly normal for this to happen!
8. There’s A Schedule For Sex
Having a schedule for sex, or at least an expected frequency of it is actually a sign of a bad relationship.
A healthy sex life doesn’t come with rules and regulations. As long as both parties consent to it, and everyone’s happy with what’s happening, does it really matter how often you make the beast with two backs?
9. Babies Solve All Your Problems
For many couples having a baby is a wonderful experience, but it doesn’t count as a growth in your relationship.
Deciding to have a baby to fix your relationship is always a terrible idea!
Babies can actually cause more stress for you and your partner. Instead of jumping straight to baby making to fix things in your relationship, perhaps try to fix your relationship before having a baby together?