15 Incredibly Unpopular (Yet Incredibly TRUE) Opinions About Relationships
Relationships; they aren’t as easy as Disney movies would have you to believe. There just seems to be so many rules these days, not to mention so many different kinds of relationships. And it seems like absolutely everybody has an opinion on what exactly a relationship should be, but is there really only one set way to have a successful relationship with somebody?
Well, Royce Tyler on Twitter has pretty much asked the same question, and the results are, to say the least, pretty interesting. Have a scroll through and see if you agree with what the Twittersphere has to say!
Honestly, I think this is one of the most important points on the list. Yes, I agree that after a break-up, one of the strongest urges you have is to find someone to replace the person you were once with, however, it’s good to remember that this is totally unfair to the person you’re using as a placeholder. Do yourself (and them) a favor by just waiting until you’re ready!
Ladies this is so true! I’m sorry to say but it can’t always be about us. Relationships are about mutual respect and affections, so make sure while he’s treating you like a Queen (as she darn well should be!), you’re also making time to treat him like a King.
My opinion is this; if your man is happy to always take care of the bill, that’s absolutely fine, let him! But you shouldn’t just expect it to happen every time. Equal balance is also very important in a loving relationship – take care of each other!
I feel very strongly about this one, and a lot of very varying things have been said about this topic. There’s research to show that the more you post about your relationship online, the more insecure you are about your relationship, but like everything in life, it’s not quite as black and white as that! If you’re extremely happy in your relationship and want to show it off, then that’s great! Just… y’know, don’t overdo it.
I know there are some women out there who want their SO to look at them and them only, but I’m sorry, it’s not going to happen. As a woman myself, I know how guilty I am of finding other men attractive, so why should it be one rule for us and another for our partners? They will look, but as long as they only love you, then let them look as long as they darn well please!
Another great one, there are always two sides to everything, as they say. Every ending and mistake is a lesson, so just make sure you take the time to learn it!
Yep, it’s more about the way they treat you behind closed doors than the way they treat you in public… that’s where they truly show how they feel about you!
This is one of the worst feelings when it comes to your relationship; you have an argument, they go to their friends, and you can just imagine what “advice” their friends are giving them… of course, it’ll reflect badly on you because they’re your partners’ friends, not yours! The only person you should be talking to after an argument is each other… say it with me!
Well, I’m pretty sure this one is a bit of a “joke” answer, but still; it works! Sometimes it’s less hassle just to say “you know what baby, you are right” and be done with it. But remember, it works both ways!
One that I’m sure will resonate with a lot of people. No, just because they’ve cheated doesn’t mean you definitely shouldn’t give them a second chance, it all depends on the circumstances around it. But if it does happen to happen more than once, or the reason for it happening just isn’t acceptable enough, you should never stick around and claim you’re being “strong” or “forgiving”… it just won’t end well!
I’ve been guilty of this one, too. Early on when I first started dating, I was never able to communicate the things that truly mattered, so instead just kept everything bottled up until I eventually erupted into a big molten pile of crazy; it’s just not healthy! Communication is always key, and if you’re not mature enough to communicate properly, then you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship!
You can’t control other people and their decisions, and you shouldn’t try to either. If you don’t think the person your friend/sibling/parent etc is dating is good for them, sometimes the best course of action is just to let them figure that out for themselves.
Definitely, one of the truest, yet hardest to accept points on this list. Just because you love someone and believe you’re perfect for each other, sadly this just isn’t the case. Learn to accept this as soon as possible and save yourself a lot of wasted time and energy!
And last but not least, this absolute gem. You’re a team, and you love each other very much, but this doesn’t mean you should both lean on each other for absolutely everything, especially when considering mental health and overall happiness. Make sure you’re a whole person and not just a half waiting for another half, otherwise you will always feel like the other half of you is empty.
So folks, how did that hit you? Do you agree with the above or ever experienced a similar situation? Maybe you have your own little words of wisdom for me… or completely disagree with literally everything I’ve written above. Whatever the case may be, let me know in the comments! And don’t forget to share this with all your friends and loved ones! AA xx